okay, so I am now gonna do something. .. that I usually don't find attractive in others..
You know , when people go on and on about how great their life is... and they have no problems.. and they want all this "atta girl/guy" praise from people..
We all know someone like this.. and we all know that it is not real.
"Let not the wise man boast of his wisdom or the strong man boast of his strenght or the rich man boast of his riches, but let him who boasts boast about this: that he understands and knows me, that I am the Lord, who exercises kindness, justice and righteousness on earth, for in these I delight" Jer. 9 23-24
It is in my thoughts, that one does not have to boast about the good in their life, yet, the good will be evident by the way the conduct themselves.
Plus, the fact, that if everything is always just super duper, than it would be easy to conclude that all is not super, and that overcompensating the good is to cover up the bad..
and we ALL have the bad..
I share this, because so often, I look at relationships,(marraiges) and think.. "how do they do it" .. or "they are so in love".. "how come its working for them"...
the truth is that it usually is not.. more often than not there are struggles, fights, distrust, selfishness, isolation, and unhappiness going on that the "world" can't see.
We are all very good at putting on outward appearances.. but what I really admire, is when those people who open up and say.."we have problems".
This weekend, I sat among 1400 people who were confident enough to stand up and say...
"the most diffucult years of marriage, are those following the ceremony"
My Husband of 2 years and I attended the most incredible weekend and probably the most important . We spent three days in downtown Indianapolis at A Weekend to Remember..
this is an amazing conference put on by http://www.familylife.com.
We had the most dynamic speakers.. couples, sharing what 23 and 35 years of marriage is really like.
Andrew and I really got to talk.. and we hit some big topics. We focused on timeless blue prints for marriage, about committment, and communication.. romance, and of course resolving conflict.
Having gotten my degree from Purdue in Management, I thought I knew all about these big topics.. from my classes, well except the romance part..( I learned about that one on my own!!)
Funny, how all the basic principals go out the window when you are dealing with the one you love.
In business, you are lacking one thing.. EMOTIONS!!!
What an amazing time for Andrew and I to share, and laugh and cry.. and really reconnect.
We had so many of our friends and parents praying for us during this time, and it was really evident.
From the fact that an annonymous donor(from our church) and dear friends of ours, committed to financially enabling us to attend( the conference and hotel were over $600) simply through the power of prayer..
We are so grateful to have had the opportunity this past weekend and are committing to invest in not only ours, but marriages of others.. as we start up a HOMEBUILDERS couple series.
If you are married and have not heard of this.. you need to run.. not walk to the website I already mentioned.. and discover how to make your relationship all that God intended it to be.
So why is life good??
*absolutely because, I got to attend this conference with Andrew.
*and we got to eat like kings..(really splurge) for every meal in some awesome restaurants
*we got to enjoy the beautiful spring weather on the Canal Walk..
* Seeing the beauty of nature, as my flowers are all coming up!
*God is good
*my little guy peed on the potty while staying at my moms over the weekend.
Yay for grandma, getting him to do it!!
*My dad performed Sun. at our church Traveling light which is a modernday, 38 monoluge, drama depicting parts of Christ's life.. and leading up to the reserection... very powerful.
*my brother"s recently ex-wife is pregnant..(thankfully not my brothers).. GOD is GOOD.
*I only have five days, until I can indulge in that sweet sweet substance!
*Experiencing holy week with my family
*my husband is going to a concert tonight, so I will be free to Scrap!!
Have an awesome Tuesday!!